There will always be a special place in your heart for the people who raised you, giving you a childhood that you can fondly look back upon. And for these people, making a few sacrifices won’t matter because you know how much they sacrificed to give you that childhood. One man, loved and raised by his aging old grandma, dropped everything to be by her side when he heard that she didn’t have long to live. A heartwarming gesture nonetheless, his fiancée was not very happy about it.
The bride-to-be was furious when she found out that her groom wanted to push the wedding a few days ahead so he could be there for the woman who raised him the way his real mother never could. He has never had a relationship with his biological mother and was left with his grandmother since the time he was born.
“I have always and will always consider my grandma my real “mother” because she raised me and cared for me all my life,” the man wrote on Reddit.
His grandmother, who had survived through multiple age related health issues as well as dementia, was being attended to at a care home. A few days before the wedding, her family recieved a call informing them that her condition was critical and that she had very little time left. Fearing that she might pass away in a day or two, they rushed to be by her side.
“My uncles and I immediately went down there and spent the entire time by her side. She doesn’t pass as soon as expected and it extends up until the day of my wedding,” he wrote.
“I called my fiancée multiple times and explained we had to postpone the wedding. Not only was I not in the best state of mind (again, she’s my mother to me) but I needed to be by her side when she passed. I felt sick at the idea of not being there when I could.”
But instead of being understanding about the situation, his to-be-wife was more worried about all the planning that was going to waste. “My fiancée was extremely (to put it mildly) opposed to this and insisted I get ready as soon as possible,” he went on to say.
The man also acknowledged the fact that postponing the wedding meant months of planning going to waste, “and I understand that it definitely sucks,” he wrote. “She also said there was no point in me being there since she won’t even know I’m there due to her dementia. I understand why it might seem like that to her, but to me it didn’t matter if she realised I was there or not. I just felt I had to be there with my uncles.”
For all that his grandmother did for him, the least he felt like he could do was stay beside her and his uncles through this tough time. When someone you love dearly is on their deathbed, it’s unimaginable to force yourself to smile and pretend like everything is okay, especially on the day you’re starting a marriage with someone.
On what was meant to be his wedding day, his grandmother passed away the same night. But along with the grief of losing the woman who raised him, he also had to deal with fiancée who refused to speak to him at the time. “My fiancée didn’t talk to me for roughly two weeks before we finally began patching things up,” he wrote. “She said I was completely a**holish to her and humiliated her by not showing up. She thinks that as my fiancée she should take top priority no matter what.”
‘While wedding dates can be pushed back and forth, one can never change the depth of the relationship you share with someone as dear as your grandmother. The man continued to say, “My opinion is that weddings can be rescheduled (albeit costly) and being with my grandma when she passed was more important.”
Five months after what was meant to be their wedding, his fiancée still can’t let it go and the engagement was called off.
A number of people came to the man’s defense and one person commented saying, “How the hell could you even expect your fiance to even remotely make it through your wedding when his mother figure is literally in the process of dying??”
Another comment said, “I think your grandma was pulling through for you one last time, showing you the selfish ass your fiancée could be before it was too late. The woman who raised you and made you who you are was on her death bed. Of course you had to be there. Had you gone with your fiancées wishes and got married, you would’ve had an awful day.”